Up until the last second of our relationship he insisted that he still loves me. And no, I wasn't on there looking for anyone else, that's not what happened. And no, he wasn't on there before we broke up either. I don't understand why someone would insist they love you and say that they want things to work out but don't think they can, then go looking for someone else the next day. Is this a good method to recover from a loss like this for some people or something? You don't have the advantages of the hugs after a disagreement, or being able to see someones face or body language when they speak. When things got tough I tried to fix them and he was just at a loss and didn't know what to do anymore. And if they do, how could they be looking for someone else so soon? I feel that this is going to take me a long time to get over. Should I just keep trying despite the circumstances and how I feel? It's the only way you can truly see if someone is legit or not. I tried sooo hard to fix things but I couldn't fix them by myself.Please help me understand why someone would go about things this way. Don't do it to make him jealous, or to find a rebound. I could see he couldn't do this anymore but was having a hard time saying it all.Trust me, it's easier to suffer the old fashioned way rather than making things even more complicated. He said relationships are work but shouldn't be this much of a struggle.
He couldn't seem to get over little things, or took a long time to recover at least.
Also, because he is looking, I stupidly decided maybe I should, too. I am devastated and heartbroken and don't feel ready for this at all as I still love him and it wouldn't be fair to anyone else either. He seemed unhappy with life and it seemed to start seeping into our relationship and I became unhappy with things and emotional about everything as well. He said he doesn't have the energy left to put into fighting like this and needed more from me in order to try that hard again.
And if you were him and saw that I had one now too how would you feel? Only make an online profile for the purposes of seriously finding someone. I cried and told him how much I love him and that it didn't have to be this way.
While breaking up can be awkward, if you keep your boyfriend or girlfriend around just because you dread the breakup conversation, then you’re just going to wind up becoming bitter toward this person for not taking the hint.
She might fool herself for quite a while that the relationship is working because she’s blinded by love (or fear).