Or maybe you’ve been a devoted reader of this site and now that you’re having some success, you’re feeling like a kid in the candy store and want to explore your options for a while.
Or maybe you’re just a serial dater; you’re in it for the rush, that new relationship energy, the passion and the thrill of sexual novelty.
Ancient Greek philosophers identified four forms of love: kinship or familiarity (in Greek, storge), friendship (philia), romantic desire (eros), and self-emptying or divine love (agape).
If you want a successful casual hook-up, then you want to understand how to keep things straight forward and appealing to everybody involved.
Until then, it’s all speculation, hope, fantasy, desire, wishful thinking, and potential. What I’m writing about is what you make all of this dating stuff MEAN. remember the phone session we had last month where we were looking at one of the guys who had written to me on Match.
See, you’re identifying each man as the problem here. After all, if 50% of all guys are going to disappoint, then this behavior is utterly predictable. But then after exchanging several emails and a few phone conversations, he told me he was dating someone else and that he would call if things didn’t work out, and I was a bit upset by that. She doesn’t assume that they’re “together” because they kissed.
Sometimes what you want is something a bit more low key, a more casual relationship instead of something long-term.
Maybe you’ve just gotten out of a relationship and the last thing you want is to jump on particular horse again.