Mistake #4: You get too handsy too soon You might feel like there’s really amazing chemistry on the first date and you’d probably like to see her naked, but if you’re interested in a second date, experts say you should shy away from being too forward too fast. Fran Walfish, psychotherapist, author and expert panelist on WE tv’s upcoming show Sex Box, says it’s this mistake that makes her private practice boom.“Many women complain that men initiate sexual contact on the first date,” she says.Okay, okay - yes, her butt looks awesome in that dress (and you probably snuck a look or two while she was walking in front of you), but there is never a reason to say that on one of the first three dates.“I went on a date once where a guy told me my breasts looked great,” Marin says. Leave that kind of talk for after we sleep together.” How to fix it: Women (and let’s be honest, anyone) like compliments, but be specific and conservative in the beginning.It is a mistake to fish around for clues as to how your date feels about “your future together.” The first weeks and months of dating should be devoted to getting acquainted and enjoying each other—without the pressure of “what lies ahead.” If dating is destined to grow into a long-term relationship, you will both know when the time is right to bring it up.No need to force the issue or try to foretell the future. Unloading past relationship baggage By the time you begin dating as an adult, you have probably had your heart broken a time or two. We vow to learn from past wounds and never let it happen again. Talking about past relationships, and all the ways in which you were mistreated, invites old ghosts to join you on your date.It doesn’t mean that we should toss sex around like a bottle of wine on ladies’ night.I’ve been a dating coach and matchmaker for more than a decade – here’s my perspective on sex and relationships in the early in the stages of dating. One thing I’ve learned through my own personal experiences and my career as a matchmaker is that men willwait for sex, if you impose a no-sex right away policy.
Trying to play the “cool card” when you are anything but, isn’t going to bring him closer.If you are worried about his level of commitment to your relationship or just don’t like the fact that he’s late to pick you up for a date, etc., the best thing you can do is be 100% upfront: Sign up for my Goddess Advice Newsletter and receive weekly emails from me!I guess you could say society has become a lot more open about sexual customs and sexuality in general over the years.What was supposed to be a quiet, romantic dinner can suddenly seem very crowded.The time may come for you to discuss your past experiences, but be judicious and cautious about sharing too much too soon. Conducting a “job interview” A friend of mine joked that he was going to take a copy of his resume on future dates, since several recent ones had seemed more like job interviews than conversations.