You have become tense and emotionally drained from his unpredictable tantrums, personal attacks and indignation at any perceived (often misperceived) slights.
Even though the energy we are sending out is negative, it is still going to feed them.
Whenever I met someone who felt a bit 'off' to me, I declined a second date.
I'm sure that trusting my personality features and narcissism in males as comprehensively as possible, so you can begin to rebalance/heal from your most tormenting relationship experiences.
I figured it out, completely by accident, when I stumbled upon a post about narcissistic abuse. What I didn't understand was the pattern of behaviour that narcs engage in with their partners.
I'd suspected the man I was dating was a narcissist – as in, someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, not just a person with narcissistic tendencies.