I was a "nice Jewish girl" looking to date a "nice Jewish boy" when I met him.He was a nice secular non-Jew from Seattle whose religious identity was rooted in memories of hanging stockings on Christmas and eating chocolate on Easter.However, unlike the mythic Sirens, gentile women are human beings who live and work among us.Our "shiksa problems" are not about their mere presence, but about our treatment of them.When my wife, Lora, first went to the mikvah, ritual bath, a couple of years ago for her conversion, she forgot to remove her clear toenail polish.We joked on the way home that she had almost gone through life with "shiksa toes." But, in a way, all women who convert do still go through life with "shiksa toes" because, for many Jews, a gentile woman can never really change--even after religious conversion.This is based on a belief system nearly 4,000 years old — so it’s been tried and tested.We want to provide those singles with a dating platform which they can feel comfortable using without having to worry that they might ending up dating someone who isn’t Jewish.
While they don’t openly invite non Jews to join their sites, they don’t dissuade them from joining if they choose to do so. “not willing to convert” On the one hand you might say that giving non Jews the option to identify themselves serves the same purpose as not letting on the site.When it gradually became clear to Sarah that Dan wasn’t Jewish, Sarah asked why Dan would be on a Jewish dating site. It was just another way to meet girls – he just didn’t understand that Jews on the site were looking to meet each other, and he hadn’t realized that his presence might be deceitful.This scenario actually occurred, with names and details changed, of course. Do people who say they are willing to convert or not at all Jewish have any success on the site?I never expected it to be more than a summer fling, but things escalated quickly. "And I can't marry a non-Jew."I then explained the concept of a -something that would bring shame upon oneself, one's family, and the entire Jewish community.On our fourth date I informed him in no uncertain terms, "This can't go anywhere.""Why? Based on my upbringing, I would feel guilty for betraying generations of Jewish martyrs who had died so that I could be free to be Jewish.