When making contact with you, they start by complimenting you on your looks. This is a statement that everyone wishes to hear, but how do you know if it’s real?
Wouldn’t we rather be complimented on accomplishments or what our goals are? Charlatans tell you they love you before they have ever actually met you. Some people can sound great on the phone, but when you meet them there is nothing there; or, physically they just don’t meet your standards. The other part of the “I love you” scam is when they will say something like, “Something in me shifted, and I love you,” or, “I think I have found my soul mate.” Again, they have yet to meet you, and there hasn’t been enough time to know you well enough to truly love you in the way you wish to be loved. There is a reason they wish for you to contact them directly and not use e-mail via the dating site.
25-80, but usually they search for middle-aged ladies - They have weird usernames containing "4real" or "4luv" - They say they are "God fearing" and search for "God fearing" - They always claim they are honest and caring, and their username often contain the words "honest" and "care" - Their first names are also weird, like Martins, Williams, Kevins, Waynes, etc...
(instead of Martin, William, Kevin, Wayne) - The women names are often misspelled, like Jenifer instead of Jennifer, Ashly instead of Ashley, or Marry instead of Mary.
- There are other times they are gone from the conversation for a length of time and will sometimes come back at you with a different name, they're usually conversing with more than one person at a time - They typically ask you to get on your webcam yet they never seem to have a webcam of their own - They like to send you poems or love letters, most of which can be traced back to lovingyou.com, sometimes they even forget to change the name in the poem or letter to match your name - They claim it was destiny or fate and you are meant to be together - They immediately want your address so as to send you flowers, candy, and teddy bears, often purchased with stolen credit cards - They claim to love you either immediately or within 24-48 hours - They ask for your phone # but when they call you can barely understand a word - They may give you a phone # but it's typically a calling card or a call center, you can rarely get them on the phone - They are so in love with you that they cannot live without you BUT they need you to send them some money so they can come to you - They typically claim to be from the US (or your local region) but they are overseas, or going overseas mainly to Nigeria, sometimes the UK for business or family matters - They often do not know the correct time difference between where you are and where they claim to be - They often claim to have one parent that is of African descent - A majority of them claim to have lost a spouse/child/parent in a horrific traffic accident or airplane accident or any of the above are sick or in the hospital - They have no close family or friend or business associates to turn to, even the US embassy, instead they can only rely on a stranger they picked off the internet - They tend to ask you to send them cell phones and laptops - They would like to mail you packages or letters and have you forward them on for them, sometimes to Africa, sometimes to another US address - To them love equals financial assistance: if you do not send them money or help them out with what they ask, you do not love them - They will ask you to open a bank account for them in your name, often in Wells Fargo bank - They will ask you for your bank account information - They will send you a check or money order and ask you to cash it for them and wire the money to them via Western Union - They frequently send fraudulent checks via - They often claim they are in the hospital and the doctor will not perform the necessary operation unless you send the money - Even when they are in the hospital they can IM with you because the doctor has a laptop and is so very generous to let them use it - They claim they've been mugged and have no money and are being held hostage in the hotel and are not being allowed to leave until the bill is paid, often they will let you talk to the "hotel manager" who will verify the story - They also claim they've somehow "lost" the company money and cannot pay his employees: there is always some desperate story as to why you have to send money - If you deny them or question them they become verbally abusive and will resort to threats - Above all, if you call them a scammer they are highly offended and some will start throwing words at you in their native language.
- General info on Nigerian dating scams - General info on Russian dating scams - Our HUGE scam database with photos that scammers use - Signs you may be dealing with a Nigerian scammer - Signs you may be dealing with a Russian scammer - Profile descriptions used by Russian scammers: Page 1 - Profile descriptions used by Russian scammers: Page 2 - Profile descriptions used by Russian scammers: Page 3 - Addresses and names used by Nigerian scammers - Forum: report your scammer here - E-mail addresses of scammers: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6 - How to detect the Russian scam - How do Russian scammers operate - Tactics of Russian scammers - Why Russian scammers use The Bat!
This is a great test; ask to meet them soon after the introduction. Most people who earn a decent living wish to be wanted for who they are, not for their income. Ask the person to send you a picture of themselves via the mail. Notice the background in the pictures posted online. Does it show a big house, a new boat, or something else that yells wealth?
There will be more hardships that only you can help alleviate with your financial gifts.
He may also send you checks to cash since he’s out of the country and can’t cash them himself, or he may ask you to forward him a package. You were targeted by criminals, probably based on personal information you uploaded on dating or social media sites.
For weeks, even months, you may chat back and forth with one another, forming a connection. But ultimately, it’s going to happen—your new-found “friend” is going to ask you for money.
So you send money..rest assured the requests won’t stop there.