Proverbs teaches that there is wisdom in using a multiplicity of counselors, so also discuss the possibility of a break up with trusted Christian friends.They may very well give you some much needed advice that helps you make a decision, or puts the relationship in a completely different light. Never bash your dating partner personally, which will only hurt them even more and affect their self worth for quite some time. Instead, tenderly explain why you feel God’s leading you to end the relationship.So I asked God to either bring her and me back together as better people or to lead us both to someone else who was better, whichever brought Him the most glory. Some thought I was still hung-up on her, that once I met someone else I would be overcome with love for her and be over it. I was still confused, but I told her that I would accept her answer. She wrote me back a few days later and ended the letter by saying that she still believed in me and wanted to know what was going on in my life but that we should go our separate ways and “see what happens.” None of this makes sense to me. Second, because it seems my conduct has driven her away. Should I pray for reconciliation and, at the least, a restored friendship? I’m sorry this hasn’t worked out the way you had hoped.I then asked if it was a good time to rebuild our friendship. I thought she was different from the other girls I’ve courted, but now I’ve lost her completely just like I did with every other girl I’ve liked. I know she means a lot to you, and those of us who’ve experienced heartbreak at some point in our lives can empathize with you.
If moving in separate directions isn't what you want, just tell him you need more time to adjust to being on your own again. God knows what he's doing even if we don't.
It’s such a common thing that either you’ve heard of it or are caught up in it yourself! It is the seemingly endless habit many couples have in which they will fight and makeup on a regular basis. It makes for great movies, but what works for a 90-minute Hollywood hit is a no-go in the real world.
What I mean is this: if fighting in your dating world means hitting, pushing, shoving, name calling, yelling, manipulating, or anything rude that occurs on a consistent basis then, of course, turn walk away. In bad relationships, bad things happen and will continue to happen if you let them. Wisdom always does now what brings satisfaction later.
Beckie Hocking, Woodbridge, Virginia I think you should try to be friends. So, since you're going to be together in heaven, shouldn't you try to live peaceably down here?
Chris Mann, Tahuya, Washington You may just need time away from each other. He will understand if he really wants to be friends. Holly Williams, Raleigh, North Carolina Right now you need this time away from him to heal.