I want a serious commitment with someone that’s ready for me. This is a very common assertion, and I believe it is usually false for one reason: intent.
Let’s start with a working definition: Playing games: intentionally manipulating someone to keep him/her guessing and off-balance. I can’t handle this.” Are these messages all over the map? Are they so inconsistent that any reasonable woman would feel highly confused?
The game is a blast for both parties involved – until a woman finds herself wondering why the man who was “crazy for her” and “couldn’t get enough of her” has poofed after a few rolls in the hay.
Whether initiated by a cold-shoulder, avoidance, or lack of communication... This phase activates loss, making you yearn for them and wait with bated breath for their call or text. These are the basic dance steps to this type of behavior. This formula is predictable and consistent even when your partner's reactions are not.
Our automatic response is to chase when the "other" pulls away.
What was once readily available is suddenly gone, and no matter how hard we try to regain our partner's former affection, it now seems beyond our reach. They don't need more time to figure out their emotions. The phases of Hot and Cold: The "hot" phase begins with a bang of overwhelming recognition. Bathed in newfound attention, flattery and flirtation spark a strong attraction for this person.
This is where he pretends to care about you more than he actually does at the beginning in order to get you into bed.
As women we crave emotional intimacy, so it’s not difficult for a man to combine earnest questions and over-the-top compliments to create the illusion of trust and connection that usually precedes sexual intimacy.