That is what I knew and that is what I was comfortable with. Changing self image and rejection takes a lot of hard work, affirmations and positive self-talk (as both GPYB and GBOT lay out in detail.) But putting it to work when you're dating is where the rubber meets the road.
I had to learn to treat myself well and think well of myself. You need to teach them you will not be bowed, cowed, or defeated. When you go through a devastating breakup, your self-esteem and self-image takes a hit. I believe that one of the reasons GPYB has been so successful is that I went through the breakup from hell, recovered my senses, discovered/created my life, changed EVERYTHING, and found the love of my life who, unfortunately, passed away from cancer.
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Tell us what type of "no" do you find easier to cope with? Rejection sensitivity varies across people and age groups. In fact, the way in which rejection is expressed shapes a great deal our reactions to it.
The most important lesson to learn is how to cope with rejection and move on.Many of my clients get out of bad relationships, others get out of mediocre relationships, some get out of good but not good enough relationships. But I put so much of me in the beginning of the book, to let my readers know, I do and have done everything I ask of my readers.Others thought things were good and the partner went poof. While some critics and reviewers have thought there was TOO MUCH of me in my book, others take comfort in the fact that I'm not just a talking head with a degree and a roster of clients... For the most part, in my books and on my blog, I speak only of things I have experienced and worked through first hand.When the ego is bruised, a core element of our being is damaged.We often feel reduced to a lesser versions of ourselves.