Lately, it seems that cell phones have squashed many social graces and created a new way for people to communicate.
When it comes to meeting and dating members of the opposite sex, however, some elements of tradition should be maintained.
Any woman who's used any kind of dating app has been confronted with this most bemusing question, posed by what we can only imagine are men who have had wood for so dangerously long they've begun to experience brain death. The idea of a quick-and-dirty “Who wants to help me achieve orgasm?
I'm talking about messaging exchanges that go something like this: We know you're eager, but nobody can get away with a “How 'bout a blowjob? " request may seem like a good idea when you're alone at 2 a.m.
***************** Today, it is harder to find someone without a cell phone than it is to hunt for sharks on land.
I know, I don't go to clubs either, but according to the songs I hear in taxi cabs, many people are there to hook up.
Sure, the lady may be all turnt up from a night of krumping or whatever (again: I don't go to clubs!
A less direct approach takes some of the risk and uncertainty out of the requesting. Fortunately, there are strategies and social skills to covertly ask for what you want.
In fact, there are a number of compliance gaining strategies (ways to get others to do what you want) - some that don't require directly asking at all (Kellermann & Cole, 1994).