These questions are designed to spark the imagination of the person and drift off into speculation.There aren't really any right or wrong answers; again, the way these questions are answered tell you more about a person than the answers themselves.As Joe Jackson sagely says “You can’t get what you want, til you know what you want.” There are questions I didn’t ask myself in earlier years, both pre and post-marriage and conversations that I wish I had back then. My vivid imagination conjures up images of a dynamic, ever-growing “third entity” that combines the sum of the parts of the two of us.If you want to see your relationship grow, you'll have to ask questions - lots of them. Learning about someone's past can be tricky; you don't want to seem like you're giving them the third degree, but at the same time you want to know more about them.My answer most often is: “When you are not yet invested in the outcome.” That means as early in a new relationship as you can.Their next obvious concern is the kinds of questions they should want answered. This question is extremely important and often difficult to answer, especially if a relationship has already become too physical.
I would much rather explore and examine, from the perspective of being on the other side of the experience, not just what I want, but what I want, even though relationship experts generally encourage focus on the positive.
I am a believer, based on my own personal and professional perspective that I need to clear the detritus of previous encounters in order to build anew.
So many people create new relationships on the wreckage of old interactions. I’ll live with myself 24/7 for the rest of my life and if I choose to blend my life with another’s, that is crucial.
Everyone today thinks this is a bad question to ask, because you seem more eager, but that’s not true.
You need to know if you and your man are on the same page.