I realize that my past experiences have made me who I am today, but I still wish I could go back in time and have a sisterly chat with poor, clueless, "younger me."I could've written three novels, started a business and hiked the Appalachian Trail with all the wasted time and energy.It's too late for me, but maybe you can learn from what I wish I knew then.1.If your date becomes your boyfriend then there will be plenty of opportunities for both of you to let your hair down.But a guy will most likely be a little scared if you knock back a few shots before dinner.If he's 22 years old and wears glasses and weighs 108 pounds and says "for some reason people tend to think I'm a Twink," feign surprise and say "men are so into labels." Then help him lift his martini glass to his lips and move on.Five: If you're over thirty and at least four years older than your date, don't be surprised if he calls you Daddy.If you seem offended by it, that's as far as we go." —Steve M."Girls should try to avoid pre-judging before a first date.
A kiss on your doorstep is enough to reassure us that you are interested but if you invite us in for the night we will start to wonder if this happens to every guy you date.
In fact, I'd been going about being single all wrong.
When I started seeing my husband, aka the first guy I wasn't embarrassed to tell my therapist about, I was gobsmacked to realize how much I hadn't known about dating before then.
I didn't have very much fun at it, which is depressing since I didn't pair up until my 30s.
Besides, so much luck was involved in my finding my match that there are probably more alternate universes where I'm still living solo than where I'm married.